At age 40 its very important to have your own space

I live in a household full of males.  I have my husband, my three sons, and my two dogs (both males).  The testosterone is flying around here. Therefore, I need a space of my own.  But even if this weren't true I think everyone should have their own space.

When we moved to Sioux City we bought a much bigger house than the one we had in PA.  About 1500 square feet bigger.  This was only possible because housing prices were impossible in that part of PA and housing prices here in Sioux City are very reasonable.  The people who owned this house before put on some lovely additions, and this includes my room.

I have my own room.  It's perfect.  I furnished it the way I wanted, I decorated it the way I wanted.  It's extremely girly, cause that's what I wanted.  I love it.  It's a little sunroom surrounded by windows and it has some of my favorite things hanging on the walls.  A painting my mom painted for me, two gorgeous stained glass pieces given to me by a good family friend, a concrete statue of a goddess that hubby and I have had since before we were married.  Things that mean something to me.  A wall clock that sings birdsong on the hour that I took from my dad's house after he passed away.

There is a vintage lamp I bought at a thrift store and a ceramic pot and two ceramic bird figurines that I picked up at said thrift store.  Amazing, beautiful things that inspire me when I look at them.  On my little occasional table sits a quirky little coaster set I picked up at a rummage sale for fifty cents.  Its utterly old fashioned and girly.  It's perfect in here.  I could go on like this for a while but I'll stop.

When we turn 40 I think we have the right to surround ourselves with things that we love and inspire us.  It doesn't matter what those things are.  We should take pleasure in the little things, after all we've lived through some pretty big things already.  Same should be said for the people we spend our time with.  I moved away from all of my friends last year, and this gives me the freedom to only invite people into my life that are good for me now.  People who inspire me and support me.  It's nice to have that freedom.  When your 40 it's a good idea to cut out the dead weight.  You have important work to do.  Negative relationships are not good for the soul.  Negative belongings too.  Sometimes we have to clean house to make room for new arrivals.